For the last few weeks, I've been recommending the two books on marriage and one novel about the powerful effects of gracious love in a marriage listed below. The chief book I've recommended is The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy and Kathy Keller. Below is a provocative excerpt from the book and a link to a longer excerpt. Check it out, and see if it won't challenge you like it challenged me, to in the famous words of the Rolling Stones, "Love the one you're with."
The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller
Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
Redeeming Love (A Novel) by Francine Rivers
"In other words, some people in our culture want too much out of a marriage partner. They do not see marriage as two flawed people coming together to create a space of stability, love and consolation, a “haven in a heartless world,” as Christopher Lasch describes it. Rather, they are looking for someone who will accept them as they are, complement their abilities and fulfill their sexual and emotional desires. This will indeed require a woman who is “a novelist/astronaut with a background in fashion modeling,” and the equivalent in a man. A marriage based not on self-denial but on self-fulfillment will require a low- or no-maintenance partner who meets your needs while making almost no claims on you. Simply put—today people are asking far too much in the marriage partner." Timothy Keller in The Meaning of Marriage